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Psychological Counseling Approach for Adult Couples and Individuals |Tri-Valley – Pleasanton Livermore San Ramon Dublin | Lori Brown Therapist
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  Individuals and Couples Welcome

I “specialize” in You ~ your unique circumstances, your goals, and your development.

We will work together to address your issues in a climate of safety and respect, building upon the strengths, gut-sense and wisdom you already have.


Questions or to schedule an appointment?

Call me at (925) 997-9003.

If I can’t pick up the phone just then, please leave me your contact information and some good times to call you back.

I will follow through.
 

  Counseling Approach

We begin to form our core beliefs about who we are and what we can expect from others from our earliest years on. We begin to develop our self-esteem and confidence, have a sense of who we can count on, and learn about how we can expect to be treated and responded to. When our families fail to meet our basic survival and emotional needs, we begin to feel unlovable or not important enough, that we can’t trust others to come through for us, and/or that we are helpless, scared, and must carry the entire world on our shoulders. These become our core beliefs – our template or roadmap used to navigate through life. These beliefs are continuously being shaped, confirmed, disproven, and tweaked throughout the stretch of our lives. Their genesis, however, begins during our early, pre-verbal years – even before we can put our feelings and thoughts into words.

Our core beliefs, which begin early on but are continuously reshaped, are our operating principals – our unique ways of moving through the world. They give rise to our inner strengths, our inner critic, our sense of shame, our confidence, other aspects of our self-esteem, our reactions to other people, our coping styles and our style of forming close relationships.

They play a part in your desire to seek out counseling right now.

If your core beliefs are currently causing you pain or are holding you back at work, at home, or with friends, psychotherapy helps you change them.

An Example:

Let’s say you learned early on that you can’t count on others when you need them. In your early years your heart was broken time and time again by your father promising he was going to come and visit you today - and he never shows. Fast forward to your current life: A few times over the past week, your husband didn’t arrive home from work when he said he would. You find yourself going into an emotional tailspin without clearly knowing why. The minute your husband walks through the door, you pick a fight with him. 

Psychotherapy helps you to understand the beliefs – which may or may not be in your field of awareness - contributing to your reactivity. It helps in slowing down your reaction time, in giving you other choices.

What is wonderful is that this process also works in reverse: dealing with what is emotionally urgent in your life right now re-shapes your core beliefs. This is true even if you don’t quite know what your core beliefs are. If, say, you’re coming into counseling because you’ve hit a wall with a co-worker, addressing this immediate issue may reshape your assumptions. Instead of always feeling inside that you are small and powerless, you may, in learning tools to deal with this co-worker, begin to feel that you have a voice. You may begin to feel more confident and effective, rather than operating from the belief that you don’t count.

The therapeutic relationship allows you to see your core beliefs at work in real time – in the session and in the room. An example: You get caught in traffic on your way to our appointment and arrived fifteen minutes late. You are very
anxious and distressed, convinced that I must think that you are incompetent and unreliable. We talk together about your anxiety and the core beliefs that are triggering it. We discover that your underlying belief is that others will always see you as a screw-up, and that you see yourself that way. We share how painful and self-limiting this has been for you. We then focus on cultivating more compassionate, more up-to-date, and more accurate beliefs.


My Therapeutic Approach

I offer what is described as an “eclectic” or integrative approach to therapy, using a variety of schools of thought and techniques. You are not just a “nail”; and I’m not just equipped with a “hammer.” The main traditions I draw upon are: psychodynamic theory; cognitive-behavioral therapy; and family systems theory. All of these approaches have stood the test of time and have much research and clinical literature backing them. You and I together will arrive at what works best for you.

Psychotherapy is, at bottom, a form of learning – a learning experience designed to help you meet your personal goals and
heal your emotional pain. Often people come into psychotherapy because their hearts/souls and their brain are at odds. Your brain is telling one thing, your heart another. In psychotherapy we make use of your intellect and cognitions – your brain – as well as your emotions and gut sense of things – your heart and soul - in furthering you towards your goals. We take into consideration the whole person that you are and the learning style that best suits you.

We build upon your strengths, your intuition and the skills you already have - and take it to the next level.



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